Do You Hate Your Hair

vye

I am a woman who loves her hair. I am 44 and I have only had 1 weave in my life. My mother taught us to do our hair in the 6 grade.. there were 5 of us all together. As we approached the 6 grade she had us standing behind the other one at a time relaxing each other's hair. My sisters and I have all been blessed to be able to have nice hair (Thank You God). When it came to our hair; my mother would always remind us to take care of it. Your hair was a part of your body. As long as you kept it washed, conditioned, greased (today I keep it moisturized) permed, ends clipped and rolled (or wrapped)……. it will grow and be healthy… it's all about not neglecting your hair… I once saw one of my sisters with a weave in her hair and I made a comment about it to her.. not realizing that i hurt her feelings.. I had to apologize… I was only trying to tell her that her hair was too beautiful to cover it up with at weave.. Recently, she and I spent the day together and I did her hair. She didn't realize that even a “Kitchen Beautician” could fix you up with the right products and tools…. Lots of Love to the Ladies….

natoria

yes marquetta this has being a very touchy topic for me, my hair i don't ever wear my natural hair out because for the past two and a half years i had decided to go natural because when i relax my hair it becomes thin cause i have naturally thin hair and the relaxer just makes it become even thinner, but even before that i would never be seen in public with my natural hair, it was so bad that after dating my now husband it took me about three years for him to see what my natural hair looks like i now allowing it to grow but i'm now having issues with hair growth at the temples i use every product available it's growing out but just not as thick as i would like it to be. are there any recommendation?

natoria

i don't hate my natural hair i'm just not ready to be seen without my weaves and i'm just not ready for others to see my natural hair

Charlene Dyous-Okonkwo

I think that women who wear fake hair, and chemically alter their hair with a relaxer, a Jerri curl, or a texturizer are insecure. I also think that women in “this country” Specifically women of African Descent (in the Diaspora) have been brainwashed to think that long flowing straight or curly hair ( even if it is somebody else's hair on their head) is the bomb. For myself I was a slave to the weave and relaxer for too many years to mention. Now I wear my hair in it's natural state without chemicals, no color, relaxer, texturizer, or Jerri curl. My hair is thriving, healthy, & in the best shape it has ever been in for a long…. time. I will “NEVER” relax again. Going natural is a “mind set”, for me and not just a passing fad. I think the beauty industry wants you to be chemically dependent and weaved up, or wigged out, and wiggy, so they can fatten their pockets. I thankfully got out of that trap, and I now appreciate the hair I was born with “thanks to my Mother & my Father”, and I am not looking back. Also one last thing, Everyone always say oh well white women wear weaves, wigs, and extensions too. My question is this if a white women shaved off her long flowing head of hair and walked around bald would black women follow suit? Just because she is white and does it too does not make it right. Women UNIVERSALLY NEED TO WAKE UP AND QUIT THIS “BULL.SHIT”. Pardon my “French.” Be who you are the way God & Goddess created you not some cheap “imitation of life.”

angeltisdale

I have worn weaves for years ever sense i was in high school. I love weaves, i think i will love them until the day i die. No i am not afraid to wear my own hair. It has been awhile sense i have worn my natural hair.
Back in febuary, i went and had some one cut my hair. So now i am trying to let it grow out so i can wear my hair more. I can manage a weave better than my own natural hair. To me it seems like it takes less time to fix your hair with a weave in it. Sometimes you don't have to mess with it at all, just wake up and go. But i no i am not afraid to wear my natural hair.

Yolanda

All hair is “Good ” as long as it's healthy. :0)

gaylefergusson

I have not shown my real hair for years. its been 5 years now, I took it out once and went to get it done and the lady cut it so short i was in tears. I then put the weave back hin to grow it back out. I prefer my weave and I do it myself since i am licensed, but it takes a toll on my arms. Thanks for the video, i will stick with the weave for now, keeps my hair natural and long…. one day when i take the weave off I would not need it again.

Lisa Coleman

At 49 years young I do not like the fact that my hair is thin and has always been thin. I wear weave be cause of the many styles that I like would cause damage to my hair. I love seeing women wear natural hair styles, wig/weaves as long as it is well maintained, it doesn't matter like you stated your hair does not make you who you are

Marie Gueye

I love my natural hair

Karen J

I have very fine thin hair and it is very hard to keep a style. When I as younger my mom used to press and curl my hair, then as I got older I got a jhericurl in which I could wear my hair either curly or straight. Then I let the jheri curl grow out, and I hated the way my hair looked, so I got a perm which made my hair grow and it got somewhat thicker, that was when I was going to the beauty shop every week After I got pregnant with my first child, I was diagonised with lupus and it changed my hair so much that I have to wear wigs because the medication I make my hair extra thin in the top and I cannot get it to grow. I wish that I could get a weave or wig that would look natural on me instead of fake and make my already scalp itch. My hair now is very thin and it cannot hold a style , and when the weather is humid, my hair reverts back to its natural curly frizzy state. I need help with it SOS. Any suggestions please……Thanks and God bless

ashame

iam not too blessed i have a big forehead and i am cowlick on the sides weave is the only help it like a half head of hair

Fizabee!

Hi Marqetta, first I would like to say thank you for all your kind help with weaves. We sistuhs need it! I have always had thick hair that was a lil past my shoulders and everyone who did my hair complained about how thick and nappy it was. So I use to believe my hair was a hassle, but my grandmother, who was a licensed beautician, told me I had healthy hair. If it wasn't for her I would probably be real mad at everybody still LOL. Growing up I use to always wear a press and curl. My mother did not allow me to get a perm until college! In college I use to do my own hair, unless I came home, still wearing a press and curl. Then I think either right after I graduated, I started to wear perms. My hair was much easier to do but I would still go get it done. Then when I had children I tried to do the natural thing, but by my hair being so thick, I could not hang LOL. So I went back to perming. Then I got my first weave after my 2nd child was born and that's when I realized how easy wearing a weave was, until the upkeep appointment. So I wore a weave until my cut grew out. Then I wore braids and my hair grew back. But I went back and forth to my hair to weaves. Now I have been wearing wigs here and there because I got my hair cut again and trying to grow my hair out. Plus I workout and it looks better with a wig or weave. I love my hair now. I use to hate it's nappy texture, but now I appreciate it. I use to not understand the weaves, but now I do. So either way I am fine with, but I love wearing my natural hair. It seems to breathe better LOL.

Fizabee!

Hi Marqetta, first I would like to say thank you for all your kind help with weaves. We sistuhs need it! I have always had thick hair that was a lil past my shoulders and everyone who did my hair complained about how thick and nappy it was. So I use to believe my hair was a hassle, but my grandmother, who was a licensed beautician, told me I had healthy hair. If it wasn't for her I would probably be real mad at everybody still LOL. Growing up I use to always wear a press and curl. My mother did not allow me to get a perm until college! In college I use to do my own hair, unless I came home, still wearing a press and curl. Then I think either right after I graduated, I started to wear perms. My hair was much easier to do but I would still go get it done. Then when I had children I tried to do the natural thing, but by my hair being so thick, I could not hang LOL. So I went back to perming. Then I got my first weave after my 2nd child was born and that's when I realized how easy wearing a weave was, until the upkeep appointment. So I wore a weave until my cut grew out. Then I wore braids and my hair grew back. But I went back and forth to my hair to weaves. Now I have been wearing wigs here and there because I got my hair cut again and trying to grow my hair out. Plus I workout and it looks better with a wig or weave. I love my hair now. I use to hate it's nappy texture, but now I appreciate it. I use to not understand the weaves, but now I do. So either way I am fine with, but I love wearing my natural hair. It seems to breathe better LOL.

claricemalla

In response to your question, i feel very comfortable wearing my natural hair. The only reason why I put on weave is because my hair is very thin and difficult to manage. The only style that can last me up to a week with my own hair is gelling it all down.
secondly, weaves are good but one has to choose carefully what style to do with it

Linda

I would love more than anything to wear my on natural hair. I started wearing braids and after that, I seemed to be hooked on them or a weave or a wig. I do my hair myself and my man friend jokes that he have never seen my natural hair. (I don't plan on him seeing it (smile). My natural hair is soft and thine but if it is relaxed it is the length of yours. I try to relax it but for some reason, I cant seem to get it straight as it should. So, yes, I wish I was not, but I do not like my hair and use to easy care with braids or a weave or a lace wig.

Brandy Thompson

I also started using coconut products on my hair and it does wonders as well. You should try it!

Cynthia

Marquetta, just like to say that I am comfortable wearing my own hair but I like to wear a lot of different styles and unfortunaltely my natural hair want allow this to happen. Wearing weaves gives u more options.

Isha

“It would be nice that if within the black community we stopped picking on each others' hair textures and skin colors and started looking at the person within.”

Pheegie couldn't have said it better! I used to be ashamed of my hair even before they started calling it “good hair” – mixed chick over here

I was racially (verbally) attacked for that as a child (by my fellow sisters) and was always doubting my beauty. Now as an adult, I know I'm beautiful and I love my hair – I went natural 5 years ago – BUT I find it difficult to keep it looking “neat” and professional for work. Its a work in progress, but NO ONE is going to get me to put a chemical of ANY type in my hair ever again!

I have sympathy though – because white women put chemicals in their hair too: to get it CURLY and blonde and you KNOW they do weaves too!

So we are not alone as people who were taught to “hate” their hair. I don't think its a black thing – I think its a woman thing. – “Main Stream Media Men” want us to all have hair they can “run their fingers through” – (Laughing)

Lenae

Marquetta, I cannot go out in the public with my natural hair. It is an embarrassing for me because I started wearing weave when I was put on coumadin in the early 80's and it took my hair out. I went from thick lengthy hair to a short, short mini afro. Ever since then, I have worn weave. I has been twenty plus years later and now I can't get my hair to grow back to the thickness and fullness that it once was. For years I have done everything that I could think of, or that people suggest to me and my hair will not grown. Now I am taking prenatal vitamins because someone told me that this should help my hair, but lately I've been wearing glue weave which tears my hair out whenever it's time for a change. I am at the point where I don't know what to do anymore, and yes I do get tired of the weaves but what else can I do. And braids only become old and break the edges of my hair. Do you have any suggestions for me, I mean affordable suggestions. They would be greatly appreciated.

toyadee

Mary,
I am a natural, chemical-free sister. My hair is as nappy and kinky as it come and I love IT. And yes I do have a man and he loves my hair, but most improtanly he loves me. And yes he can run his fingers thru my hair once it is detangled…LOL ! I chose to be this way because I got tired of my scalp burning, then I learned the truth about the “creamy crack”. Whether it is a lye or no-lye relaxer, it is not good for the scalp nor the hair as we have been fooled to believe. Please read “Hair Story: Untangling the Roots of Black Hair in America”. We need to educate ourselves on our history, and how we came to believe that this Eurocentric idea of beauty, that straight hair is beautiful. If you are raising daughters please don't teach them this ignorance and slave mentality.

normabutler

Dear Marquetta, I have been wearing braids and weaves ever since I graduated high school. I am now a very young looking 41yr old. The problem that I have had wearing my own hair is that I can't seem to find a deceit hairdresser. You walk into a hair salon and the hairdressers either look at me like I crazy, they don't greet you, or you would think I just asked them to do my dental cleaning. Sometimes I think they need to take a class on manners and ehtics, how are you supposed to attract new customers with stink attitudes? I think for some reason thats why It is meant for me to do hair because I have been though so many bad experiences, I have learned what not to do.I would never want a client to be afraid to ask a question concerning their hair or feel nervous around me or be embrassed. By the way I have felt all of those things at one time or another. So I personally would have to say that once I found that fantastic hairdressser I will glady wear my own hair and be quite proud about it. Hope to hear from you soon.

Lavera

I hate my hair and the reason being is that I have damaged my hair so badly. I have worn braids in my hair every month of every year since the 80's until I was diagnose with breast cancer in 2002. I lost my hair of course due to chemo, but after my cancer treatment was done and my hair started to grow back I thought this was my chance to start anew with my hair, but I made the same mistakes. I wore braids for so long I did not know how to manage my own hair and as soon as my hair was long enough I went back to the braids and my hair was not as strong after chemo and sometimes I would wear the braids so long my own hair would dread and my hair was falling out from the root with the braids and then I started to go grey and dyed my own hair and it broke off badly. Well I have been wearing wigs (lace front) for over 6 months now to give my hair a break from braids and chemicals. I have been doing a lot of deep conditioning and keeping it in flat braids under my wigs. The edges of my hair are not growing back but the rest of my hair is getting healthier, stronger and thicker and maybe one day I will love it again but I love the ease of wearing my wigs. I really did not adapt to wearing wigs when I was bald from chemo because it was also freeing not having to worry about hair and to be able to shower from head to toe was great, because as a black woman you know we can let the water touch our hair when we shower. Now I love my wigs and I’m not for sure if I will wear my own hair often even after it is stronger and healthier and not because I will still hate my hair but just because I love the ease and the versatile styles of the wigs and they look so natural, nothing like the wigs my mother used to wear.

skyi

I love my hair. It is thick but i do love it an i do relax it sometime.. My hair is very pretty an long. I love it i dont do weaves.. An i think your hair is pretty to an you shouldnt do weaves either.

Vernika Eubanks

I love my hair with weave and without weave. I'm a stylist also so i just love a different look every once and a while. I do know someone who doesn't feel like herself without her weave. I don't let weave define me I'm pretty regardless.

Tamela

I like my hair and I dont like. I like it because I can wear it curly, but I dont like it because its thin. I had it cut into a bob about a year ago and its slowly growing back. So by it being thin and curly when I go to flat iron it, it just puffs out on the sides. Drives me crazy. So its always in a ponytail. I have only worn weave a few times and I like it just need the money to keep doing it. I wish I had thick hair like you do. Now about that “what type of hair is good hair”. I think its medium to coarse grade (not the coarse that will cut you if you touch it), with medium thickness. To me that type of hair holds styles better, to where my hair it would look good until a good wind come a long I don't mind women wearing weaves its just when they don't keep them up that buggs the hell out of me, or they wear weave that is for a hair show like the bronner brothers.

liaralockhart

this is a really god topic and I am somewhere in between. I cant stand my natural hair when it isn't relaxed but when it is relaxed I love my natural hair. I do have short hair tho. it onlu comes about to the bottom of my ear relaxed and I love it relaxed.I just got over it being the length it was because for a long time i was very concious about my length of hair. From age 12 all the way up until a few months back (and I am 19 now) I was very disappointed in my hair. It grows very slow and seems as if it is not growing at all.I have been off and on using Doo Gro products to get it to grow and that works great for me. But the short hair I'm not so self concious about anymore.

Rhonda B.

I don't like my hair with a weave or without a weave. The reason I say that is because no matter what I seem to do with it after about a week or two it just don't look right to me. When I was younger my hair was nice and full, but now that I take medicine for diabetes at 43yrs old it doesn't take to the relaxer and the texture has change. Right now it is short and I am wearing a wig trying to grow it out natural but I perfer it relaxed. It is very fragile and ugly, I just don't know what to do with it. I have tried so many products. I am a license Cosmetologist and I feel if I can't do something with my hair how can I expect my clients to feel good about coming to me.

Nina

Grace & Peace Marquetta, I personally where natural hair. I have dread locks. I can do them myself but I like to be pampered and have them twisted at a salon. I keep my locks looking as good as possible. I do not like to see lint in locks which I have seen. I can not see why lock wearers do not check their locks. I also sleep with a cap I brought at the beauty supply shop. I have wore braids weaves and Loved it on me. I made me a wig from one of your dvds I brought recently. I looked nice. I love how you sparkle. K- eep up the great work you are doing. Love always Sister Nina

lisa

Hello! I hate my hair it will not grow pass a certain length. So i always wear weave.

Elizabeth

Hi,
I thought you are very smart in what you do. I have said so because, A m one of those women who are very frank in what i talk about. This topic you brought is very interesting to most women, but you are not going to get the comment from many, but I will.
To start with I am embarrassed with my natural hair. I will give you the reasons: (1) My hair is very thin. does not grow, you can even see my scalp. So most time I wear the weave or the ponytail, you know what I mean.(more money at the saloon) So, what should I do to make up with my hair? Show me the right shampoo, cream, etc for my hair.
For sometime, I have been watching your videos, but I now know you know the hair stuff and ONE THING i LIKE ABOUT YOU IS THAT YOU ARE FRANK AS TO MOST VIDOES I HAVE WATCHED. sO TELL ME I WANT A VIDEO FROM THE SCRACH WEAVING AND PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTIONS ABOVE.
ELIZABETH.

Elizabeth

Charlene even if you comment was going to make sense, it will never to all the readers. Remember language is the key to what you are talking about. People will know us by the words we use.
Look at how Marquetta talked about her hair, how we should be proud of our hair. She used good words and many women have liked her video and I am one of them

Nicole

It's interesting to hear a stylist say that they didn't like their own hair and didn't know what to do with it at times (which maybe the reason you became a stylist). I was shamed of my hair, not because I didn't like it, but b/c other blacks didn't. To be dark skin with natural hair and not know how to care for in properly in the 80's (a hint of rain made it revert back), was not popular at all. But now, I wair my hair natural or individual braided twists. Either way, it's still me and I'm loving it!

barbarainillinois

I didnt see your natural hair in this video you said that you put a relaxer in it so really what did you hate about it? the length of your hair? I dont have a problem with my hair i think that black people have the best hair in the world we can do anything with it I'm growing my hair natural I'm thinking about getting dreads or something but we are a beautiful people and we have beautiful hair whether its relaxed , pressed or naturally curly we should be proud of our hair and not let society tell us whats beautiful we should never be embarrassed at what God has blessed us with

Name

I wore a sew in for 3 years straight. I want to wear my own hair. I took the weave out and wore my hair for a bout 6 weeks. As time went on I found myself with a track here a track there. Before I knew it I was wearing weave again. Weave is much manageable

KESHA BROWN

I BELIEVE THAT YOUR HAIR IS A PERSONAL CHOICE HOW U WEAR IT , IT DEFINES WHO U R HAS A PERSON WHETHER U WEAR WEAVE OR NOT, YES IT IS A CHOICE JUS LIKE A CHOICE OF FASHION AND THATS WHAT I BELIEVE WE AS BLACK PEOPLE HAVE CAME ALONG WAY IN CHOICES WIT OUR HAIR AND I JUST THINK THAT WE AS THE PEOPLE CAN BE SO CREATIVE WIT OUR LOOK.IM NOT ASHAMED AT ALL WHETHER IT IS WEAVE OR REAL .

shontelle

it is very good that u have come to decision ti wear ur hair.. it is beautiful… i am really not a believer in braids or weave and i love it when women can wear their hair as it is because show me ur pride in urself and love for ur assets

jecinter

I love my hair natural. i can't wear waves on my head becoz i feel unconfortable and sort of artificial.but having said that I do admire ladys with waves,which are properly been fixed to match there colour and blending with their hair.

anonymous

This saddens me. Why should we hate our hair or want to wear weave? Who's to say that tight curly hair is “bad hair” and straight hair is “good hair”. Why do we think our hair is bad and everyone elses is good.. We have been programmed to think that way. This goes back to slavery where they would make fun of our hair and call us “nappy head”.

Jax

I think that this topic is starting to explode because so many women are starting to re-evaluate what the definition of beauty is. I have had everything in my hair from curls to perms, braids and sewins. I got a bad perm almost two years ago now and I said Never again. I cut much of my permed hair off and started getting my hair braided it has been almost two years now but I have not put a perm in my hair. I was afraid of what people would think of me, but why it matters so much to me what other people thought of me became the real issue. I have come to turns with the fact that if God wanted me to have long straight hair He would have given it to me and that if I decide to add that to my hair then I should do it because I want to or because I want a change but not because I hate what God gave me. My husband didn't like it at first and was very upset but it is growing on him. I realize that our men have also viewed beauty as long and straight and as messed up as that is, I am trying to reprogram my 5 and 2 year old boys to see the beauty IN the natural Hair and not so much in what has become the “norm”

mallika77

I love my hair……. but i wish it was fuller, I feel as long as we know how to take care of our hair relaxed or natural ,we all should feel free to rock weaves, braids, and or wigs because it is an option,sometimes a couple of tracks in the head can change your whole look!so have fun and just take care of your own hair so it's not looking a hot mess when you do feel like wearing your own hair.

Jax

This is why our baby girls are running around wanting to wear Hanna Montana wigs and our 2 & 3 year olds are getting perms because people are telling them that their own hair doesn't look good and that they won't be loved by a “man”. All of this seems very sad to me
My Husband loved the perms and the straightness of hair, yes he wants me to put another perm in my hair, and add weave however, he loves me and although he can't “run his fingers through my hair” he is learning how to “take a piece and twist it around his fingers instead” LOL

Name

I don't hate my hair. I used to have very thick hair but one day it fell out in the middle of my head which made my hair thin on top. I have been braiding my hair because my hair grows better when it's braided. Plus braids are easier for me. I have no problems with weave or natural hair. Women should know they are beautiful no matter how they style their hair.

Jax

Thank you for that It's the old the grass is greener in somebody elses yard thing. I think the greatest gift that we have is learning how to find the beauty in ourselves and others.

http://twitter.com/Giigglesz Keisha

Im like how you use to be
i hate going out or showing my natural hair
like i really dont know what to do with it or i think i dont like nice but eveutally i probably will get use to my natural hair when i find something that i like that i can do to it
love your videos cant wait to see me
UK Fan!!

Kanoya

Hello MArquetta,

Thank you for opening up this discussion. I must say I love my hair. I never had any huge issues with it and never thought nothing much of wearing a weave. While I am a stylist myself I must have saw just about all types of hair on all types of people. And yes there are some that have hair that can be difficult. Last year I have decided to let my hair grow out of my relaxer but I reufused to cut it down so the inbetween was hard for me. so I kept in in a ponytail after tha first 2 days of me shampooing it. I would have to shampoo my hair so often to keep it soft and manageable. After a year it got to the point where it broke of and the lines of demarcation so I just went on and relaxed it again. Be even during thrat itme I liked to curliness I loved the fullness of it and it was fine. But orking two jobs and doing hair and schooling I needed a quick wrap and go. So like you Marquetta I also textured my hair not to remove the curl but to remove the kink and I loving it to death. I want to just say that India said it best “I am not my hair”. Love your self for who you are and not who someone whats you to be. Learn what yyou need to make it work for you and go with it. Im fact Im about to put some great single braids with extentsions in mine just to change it up a bit. Oh how I love being who I am……..Talk to you soon on Twitter Marquetta. (wiserthanbefore)

SHEKEYMA

I LOVE MY NATRUAL HAIR BUT I ALSO HAD A BAD CUT, IM TRYING TO GROW IT BACK. MY HAIR IS VERY THIN AND IM TRYING TO GET IT TO GROW AND UNTIL THEN I JUST KEEP WEARING MICROS OR SEW INS. I HATE MY HAIR SHORT.DO YOU KNOW OF ANY HAIR VITAMINS THAT WORK

Red

I believe that if the person wears a weave because it makes her life much easier and saves her time it is a good thing. If a woman wears a weave because of not liking her own natural tresses she needs to find a hairstylist that knows how to create a style that fits her lifestyle. I try to teach my clients how to care for their natural hair. It is very challenging because hair magazines show off so many different styles, and unfortunately, “all hair is not created equal.”

http://twitter.com/znesty zenesta evans

Great Topic!!!

I have been wearing weaves for about 2 years now, and since that time, I have not put any perm in my hair. Before going to weaves, my hair was very thin and damaged from perms, heat, etc… It is now shoulder length,and a lot thicker, except for in the front of my head, for some reason it finally started growing back there, was almost completely bald in that spot, never found out the cause of that, but it is still very thin, so I would have to do a Donald Trump comb over if I tried to wear it flat ironed out or put a perm in it.

I have been wearing it braided in about 5 or 6 plaits for the past two weeks, y'all know the ones I'm talking about. Those plaits your mom used to put in your hair one in the front, two on each side and two in the back with the barretts on the ends (lol). Everytime my daughter comes over to the house, she says “Mom when are you going to do something with your hair?” Since I am currently unemployed and taking online classes, this works for me right now. Would I go out in public like this HECK NO!!!
I throw on a hat or a scarf and keep it moving.

Although I am very happy that my hair has grown, with it in its natural state, there is nothing I can do with it. I am not particular fond of flat ironing my hair, and I don't think I will put another perm in my hair. I am patiently waiting for my recently purchased wefts from Vellusia, so I can have my weave sewn back in. I love,love,love this hair. Do I hate my hair? No. Do I wish it was more manageable and straighter? Yes. Do I wish it was healthy? Yes, and it is now that I have stopped putting relaxers in it. Now if they could just come up with a natural way to get rid of grey!

0elicia9

I have always felt that a woman, regardless of wearing her nature hair or a weave, is beautiful as long as she takes care of her hair. I, myself, am having a hard time dealing with my natural hair. We moved to Aurora, CO from Shreveport, LA November 2008. I had very long hair at the time. Everyone always commented on how healthy and pretty my hair was and my husband loved it. I didn't even have to consider a weave. However, due to the dryness here, my hair broke off very bad. This left me feeling very insecure and devastated to say the least. I don't feel attractive anymore and have resulted to wearing braids as a means to grow my hair and hide the hideous way it looks now. Although he want admit it, I know my husband dislikes it as well. I hear various things about wearing braids. Some say it is good for growth and others say it is not good to wear them a long period of time because they can cause breakage. So right now I am lost and can't seem to find a good beautician with whom I feel has the expertise to advise me further. I now realize just how much my hair made me feel attractive and now without it I feel lost and sad. Maybe if I was happy with other aspects, such as my weight, it wouldn't matter so much but my hair was the only thing I really felt good about and now it is gone. It is almost like my identity is gone without it.

miss5000

It is a person personality that should be considered any way for because of the curse from became nappy and unmanageable . People are fooled into these pictures of whites being the color of Adam and Eve they were of color and beautiful and sure their hair was manageable also, long and thick.
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Do You Hate Your Hair?